Guides

5 Things Couples Should Discuss Before Attending A Play Party Together

I have learned a lot—both from personal experiences and as a play party host—about what people should discuss with their partner(s) before attending a play party together. Here are the top 5 things you should make sure to discuss with your partner(s) prior to the event will help you not only navigate parties more easily together but will also allow you to have more fun with a lot less stress and anxiety.

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Chronic Illness

How-To Guide for Finding Free Scientific & Medical Journal Articles

Whether you’re a sex educator or someone advocating for your own healthcare, having access to scientific and medical journals can be an important part of getting the latest and most accurate information, but paywalls often get in the way. Here’s a guide to help you access the resources and information you need!

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Community

Mast Cell Diseases & Sexuality Facebook Group

Announcing a new, private, sex-positive and inclusive “Mast Cell Diseases & Sexuality” Facebook group for open conversations around mast cell diseases, sexuality, sexual health, sex education, and relationship issues.

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Sexuality

Let’s Stop Calling Yeast Infections “Gross”

Yeast infections are so common for folks with vulvas that you’re statistically more “normal” if you have had a yeast infection than if you’ve never had one, yet nearly 70% of people with vulvas are embarrassed when they have one, and less then half would feel comfortable telling a friend.

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Chronic Illness

Chronic Illness, Brain Fog, Success, and Self-Worth

If I’ve learned anything from having a blog for the last few years, it’s that no matter what I’m feeling or experiencing, there’s someone else out there going through the same thing. Probably multiple someones. So I’m going to try something I find really terrifying—being vulnerable on the internet. No happy ending, morals, or solid educational content guaranteed.

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Sexuality

No, You Really Don’t Have To Stop Apologizing

Like many women, saying “sorry” too much is something I learned growing up. It’s a problem, but telling women they “have to stop apologizing” isn’t the solution—we need to change the culture around why we teach people they have something to apologize for.

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Guides

Why Being Called a Tease is a Consent Issue

After declining an invitation back to her date’s apartment recently, my younger sister worried she would come off “as a tease.” So in true big sister fashion, I’m going to give you all the same unsolicited advice I gave my sister— there is no such thing as being a tease. My sister’s concern over being a tease still makes me worry that down the line, with this date or another, she’ll be in a situation where she doesn’t feel she had the right to say no, or feels uncomfortable saying it. Here are 5 things we all want our loved ones to know about consent.

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Guides

The Epic Non-Latex Condom & Barrier Guide

Everything you’ve ever wanted to know about non-latex alternatives for condoms and other safer sex barriers!

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Guides

6 Tips for Opening Up Your Monogamous Relationship

Opening up a monogamous relationship can be difficult and overwhelming. Here are 6 things you need to do to make the transition smoother.

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Sexuality

The Science of Flirting (and Why it’s Fun)

Regardless of your motive, think about how flirting makes you feel. Flirting and being flirted with is fun. As we grow up, there are less and less avenues for playful interactions with other people, and eventually flirting is one of the few forms of play we have left. It’s also a huge boost to your self-confidence to be flirted with. Brain chemistry also plays a factor in why flirting can make you feel awesome.

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This product was a disappointment. After removing my possible personal bias from the equation, and assuming the strap had not broken, since Lovehoney would have sent me a replacement, the Fifty Shades of Grey Keep Still Over the Bed Cross Set was unwieldy to set up, impossible to adjust (for a full-size bed), and a disaster to store away. I think Lovehoney has far better options for restraining your partners.

I’m trying something new: weekly updates of all my half-baked thoughts/feels throughout the week served up to you stream-of-consciousness style. Let’s see how this goes, shall we? This week: A mini BlogSquad weekend, new sex toys (and pegging), the upcoming Sex Down South conference, and my favorite podcasts!

Being chronically ill is also one of my biggest motivators for becoming a sex blogger (my other reasons were a love of sex and obsession with sex toys!) Even before vulva pain was an issue for me, I had so many questions from problems I would run into that not even google had good answers to—and I realized that I couldn’t possibly be the only person looking for answers. I love sex, but I’m also a person living with chronic illness, and it’s had an enormous impact on my sex life—so I’m going to keep talking about it so hopefully the next time someone goes looking for answers they’ll be able to find them.

As a prostate toy, the Don falls short… literally. The bulb meant for insertion just isn’t long enough to reach the prostate. Still, I really liked the Don by Doxy. It has great, and quiet, rumbly vibrations making it a great purchase for penis-owners who like vibrations on the head or shaft of their penis, those who likes strong clitoral stimulation, and anyone who needs a strong but quiet vibrator.

Being at Woodhull’s #SFS16 made me feel comfortable, like I belonged, and confirmed how right being part of the sex-positive community felt to me—a community of people who are inclusive, understanding, accepting, and non-judgmental. I’m not sure who wouldn’t want to be a part of that. I felt strangely at peace being at Woodhull, as and a very high-strung person who has no idea what relaxing is, that’s a huge thing for me.