After declining an invitation back to her date’s apartment recently, my younger sister worried she would come off “as a tease.” So in true big sister fashion, I’m going to give you all the same unsolicited advice I gave my sister— there is no such thing as being a tease. My sister’s concern over being a tease still makes me worry that down the line, with this date or another, she’ll be in a situation where she doesn’t feel she had the right to say no, or feels uncomfortable saying it. Here are 5 things we all want our loved ones to know about consent.