Regardless of your motive, think about how flirting makes you feel. Flirting and being flirted with is fun. As we grow up, there are less and less avenues for playful interactions with other people, and eventually flirting is one of the few forms of play we have left. It’s also a huge boost to your self-confidence to be flirted with. Brain chemistry also plays a factor in why flirting can make you feel awesome.
Being chronically ill is also one of my biggest motivators for becoming a sex blogger (my other reasons were a love of sex and obsession with sex toys!) Even before vulva pain was an issue for me, I had so many questions from problems I would run into that not even google had good answers to—and I realized that I couldn’t possibly be the only person looking for answers. I love sex, but I’m also a person living with chronic illness, and it’s had an enormous impact on my sex life—so I’m going to keep talking about it so hopefully the next time someone goes looking for answers they’ll be able to find them.
What are sex-positive doctors or therapists? They are medical professionals who make it a point to be well-educated about sexual health and aim to provide their patients with accurate, helpful, and non-judgmental information. They consider sex to be a healthy part of life that should be enjoyed, and they’ll be able to discuss it with you without awkwardness or being judgmental about your lifestyle, sexual practices, or preferences.
When you’re living with a chronic illness there’s a lot in life you have no control over. The “Spoonies Can Have Great Sex Too” series is a discussion about how to take back control over your sex life. This edition: Dealing with sexual side effects. What are sexual side effects? It’s a term that encompasses a number of symptoms; loss of libido, vaginal dryness, being unable to orgasm, erectile dysfunction, or genital numbness. Read more to learn what to do about them.
There are many causes of vulva pain. I can tell you that having any kind of vulva pain truly sucks— there’s really no good way to spin it to make it sound like a good thing—but if you are well-informed, advocate for yourself, and find the right doctor, things can get better.
I am the less-then-thrilled owner of a chronic illness. It’s hard to quantify just how much my life is affected by having a chronic illness, despite my best efforts to just live my life. Sex is one of the areas of my life most heavily influenced by Fred, and in turn I’m sure it plays a role in why certain toys work for me when others don’t— but I do know that it is possible to have a chronic illness and a great sex life.