There are many causes of vulva pain. I can tell you that having any kind of vulva pain truly sucks— there’s really no good way to spin it to make it sound like a good thing—but if you are well-informed, advocate for yourself, and find the right doctor, things can get better.
I am the less-then-thrilled owner of a chronic illness. It’s hard to quantify just how much my life is affected by having a chronic illness, despite my best efforts to just live my life. Sex is one of the areas of my life most heavily influenced by Fred, and in turn I’m sure it plays a role in why certain toys work for me when others don’t— but I do know that it is possible to have a chronic illness and a great sex life.