There’s tons of helpful, well-written information about all sorts of topics out there… if you know where to look. Don’t fret though, I’ve gathered them all together to create the ultimate resource list. Enjoy!

If you think something should be added to the list, let me know; it’s a work in progress that will continue to grow.



Epic Bondage Rope Guide: Basics and Safety by Lorax of Sex

A Beginner’s Guide to Bondage by The Big Gay Review

• Introducing BDSM into Your Relationship: A Beginner’s Guide by Gritty Woman

•  A Beginners Guide to the Ultimate Bondage Experience by Gritty Woman


Blow Jobs:

• The Slutty Girl’s Ultimate Guide to Blow Jobs by Bitch Brunette

• Aerie’s Guide to Giving Bad-Ass Blowjobs by Aerie’s Room


Body Safe Sex Toys:

• The Definite Guide to Toxic Sex Toy Awareness by Dangerous Lilly, the undisputed queen of sex toy safety. An extremely thorough guide!

• Is Your Glass Sex Toy Truly Safe? Another great guide by Dangerous Lilly.

• Sex Toy Cleaning Guide & Material Information Guide by Dangerous Lilly

• The Progressive Pleasure Club 
A list of brick and mortar stores (they also sell online) committed to selling only body safe toys.


Butt Stuff

Guide to Rimming by The Big Gay Review

Prostate Massage: A Buyers Guide by The Big Gay Review


Chronic Illness/Disability & Sex

Ready Sexy Able

Sexuality & Disability


Chronic Vulva Pain:

• General Vulva Pain Resources

#PussyProblems: Vulva Pain by Hedonish

2015 Terminology and Classification of Persistent Vulvar Pain and Vulvodynia, National Vulvodynia Association

Vulval Pain Society

• Vulvodynia:

The National Vulvodynia Association

• Vulvodynia: Definition, Prevalence, Impact, and Pathophysiological Factors Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2016

• Lichen Planus and Lichen Sclerosus:

Vaginal Lichen Planus, PubMed, 2010

About Vulvar Lichen Planus, Drexel Medicine

The Association for Lichen Sclerosus & Vulval Heath

• British Association of Dermatologists’ guidelines for the management of Lichen Sclerosus, British Journal of Dermatology 2010



• Beginners Guide to Chastity and Orgasm Denial by Gritty Woman


Lube Facts:

• Bad Vibes, What’s in Your Lube:
Written by lube expert Sarah E. Mueller of Smitten Kitten, What’s in Your Lube covers pretty much everything you need to know about lube: general facts, the science behind lube, lube’s effect on the body, and commonly used lube ingredients.

Bad Vibes has also created Lubes Guides (pdf) in three editions :
Every Body Edition | Low Estrogen Edition | Butt Stuff Edition

• Epic Lube Post by Lorax of Sex
A great guide to the different types of lubes out there and what materials you can and can’t safely use them with.


Pegging & Strap-On Fun:

• Beginners Guide: Purchasing Your First Strap-On Harness A spectacular guide by Gritty Woman



A Gay Man’s Guide to Wand Massagers (or anyone else with a penis) by The Big Gay Review— what, you thought they were only for vulvas?

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